Urbanity ur·ban·i·ty/ˌərˈbanitē/noun1.suavity, courteousness, and refinement of manner.2.urban life.refers to the characteristics, personality traits, and viewpoints associated with cities and urban areas. People who can be described as having urbanity are also referred to as citified. The word is related to the Latin urbanitas with connotations of refinement and elegance, the opposite of rusticus, associated with the countryside.